​​An Autobiography:
By author
Robert Lamar Durland, Sr.

2018 thru 2020

Sometimes evolution faces distraught behaviors with life-lasting prayers. Although many willingly decide to share their trials and tribulations, and then again, some prefer silence. Voluntarily through faith, I share how my mind allowed the explanations of the self-taught sexual disturbance ruling my life, and how between heaven and earth I found closure.  Truthfully, learning a new direction fulfilled the sexual addictiveness that slowly crippled my life. I firmly believe many accomplished victories, and some still face the mind-altering consequences throughout the world with no answers or counseling and that their love ones, friends, or society does not truly understand.  Thanks to God, my Savior, and my friends for the insight toward conquering the worst nightmares imaginable “sexual sin.” Today, through challenging work and perseverance, He has allowed a lifelong dream to bloom, supporting others with optimism, passion, and happiness. Besides, God’s grace redirects all humanity in a positive and fulfilling way, pleasing to Him with far better education and love for the world.  I feel many all over the world, have suffered as I, correcting their sinfulness. Today, I very quickly vision how God has allowed the strength and guidance to reverse my direction away from the old sexual addictive habits obliterating my life and way of thinking.  I finally realize what has been staring me right in the face was a self-learned behavior and brain-related injuries that slowly uprooted my sanity toward a never-ending direction to nowhere. In God’s timing, He finally answered my lifetime prayer, acknowledging my addictive sexual behavior of indecent exposure. Through Him, I now understand and reprogram my weak mind or short-term memory to victory. That’s so right. Short term memory plagued my life forever toward unhappiness and insecurity. And this, I will explain as you venture through the author’s three books learning how brain injuries remain hidden and dangerous. Also, how the author allowed the wrong pattern of distress most of his life, causing imperfect remembrance and extreme discomfort from day today. So, many as the author have fallen short at different intervals throughout their lives, from short term memory, the controlling subconscious mind, and never realizing why they performed so wrongfully.  

As you read, the author's life story of 75-year's you decide was the 17 years of writing from 2003 through 2020 deliberate or an impulsive action?
Was 17-years of voluntary sexual abstinence necessary? Yes, every addictive behavior follows a programmed subconscious mind for pleasure.
Remember, his mind processed an impulsive sexual behavior with indecent exposure for 42 years. 
Also, take into account that he always felt close to God within his mind and that in 1986 he felt that God's plan and divine will was to author his life story. Also, take into consideration did his parents and himself knowingly save all his detailed life records for this future event within his life? 
What is the direction of the author’s mind toward sharing his life of trials and tribulations and beliefs? Was it God’s plan, His divine will, or from a form of guilt, an impulsive thought, or from his heart?
Whatever the reason, without proper education, the author found direction and success through his renewed mind and perseverance.

​   The author's sole intention of writing a self-improvement book was trying to help the readers in solving their life's challenges. Through perseverance, he discovered during the past seventeen years (2003 - 2020) that writing down the events concerning his experiences before and after a traumatic brain injury at the age of 14 and sharing his thoughts throughout the 75 years has helped him solve problems that he once thought were impossible.
   Throughout the seventeen years of writing, the author felt secure to share his autobiography because the only real friend he had within his mind was God.   
Hopefully, others who find themselves in a similar situation will seek professional help in the hopes of living a happy and fulfilling life.

 Hebrews 13:5
Let your conversation be without covetousness; and be content with such things as ye have: for he hath said, I will never leave thee, nor forsake thee.

   Below is from Trudy Adams blog:

An insight into the reasons why Honesty is essential, please read Trudy Adam's blog.

The author believes everyone becomes hurt at some point because of a secret, a distorted truth, a lie, or the discovery of something that should have been talked about openly. He believes dishonesty hurts because it undermines the relationship, breaks trust, and is the opposite of intimacy. Also, this means instead of feeling secure in the fact that you know the other person and are known by them; in turn, you now have doubts about them and no longer feel safe in the relationship.
Being honest is not always easy. Otherwise, we'd all do it all the time.
Below are five main reasons why Honesty is essential:

1. Without reliability, there is no foundation for a lasting or enjoyable relationship.
2. No one can read another person's mind.
3. When someone does not know the truth, they will try and guess it.
4. Friends or loved ones are usually more hurt by the concealment of the truth than by the truth itself.
5. Being honest improves the relationship and saves us from having to live a lie.

Acknowledgment is the greatest inspiration in the world.

“It’s important that we share our experiences with other people. Your story will heal you, and your story will heal somebody else. When you tell your story, you free yourself and permit other people to acknowledge their own story.”
Iyanla Vanzant

The Author bases Time Never Stops, I Am A Survivor on his personal history of a traumatic brain injury, sin, forgiveness, faith, prayer, and love.
Parental involvement and early childhood education are necessary for developing both the parent and the child's brain.
The author believes that the greatest successes in life are helping others.
Forgive someone. Turn from bitter to positive, end frustration, anger, and pain. Wash the anguish from your brain.
Please pray for Peace in our Country and the World.

   The author's sole purpose in sharing his life story is to support those still searching for closure, which took him fifty-nine years to understand. He realizes many that have never suffered as he will condemn him for his writing, mistakes, or poor judgment. The author assumes that closure is bereavement and that many believe there is no such thing as closure. The author realizes that what supports one person may not help another, which is truly visible throughout the daily news. Although through perseverance, finally understanding the human brain structures and functions, and the abilities of the subconscious mind have significantly redirected the author's life.
   Subjects: God’s Timing and Love, Traumatic Brain Injuries, Learned Behaviors, Poor Comprehension, Sexual Abuse, Addictions, Alcohol, Drugs, The Subconscious Mind, and The Immorality of Pornography. The author of Time Never Stops, I Am A survivor shares 75 years about how he suffered a traumatic brain injury, a sexual addiction, and learned behavior. Also, not knowing how he allowed his subconscious mind in control. The most important thing you need to know about the subconscious mind is that it is always “on.” That is, it is active day and night, regardless of what you are doing. The subconscious mind controls your body. 

   Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross wrote, “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and deep loving concern.
Beautiful people do not just happen.” 

In aid of:
Trident Head Injury Support Group
Robert Durland, Sr.

Weathering Life's Storms Together
Trident Breeze Group of the South Carolina Spinal Cord Injury Association
Barbara Delia, Breeze Group Leader

Think First of South Carolina
Bonnie Muntz-Pope, BSN, RN
State Director and Trainer